Self-Esteem: we’re literally talking about the ability to give yourself a value. A positive value, if you can. The ability to estimate is to be intended as the ability to evaluate something or someone, and it is related to the ability to give a judgement. A judgement! Self-Esteem depends on the ability to give yourself a judgement.
The concept of self-esteem has various synonyms, ranging from self-trust to the ability of taking care of self, to good egoism, to the belief in one’s own opinions, resources and potentialities.
In Life Coaching, people addressing to a Coach often wish to work on their self-esteem by improving and consolidating it. This allows to prove that most people are completely unable to give themselves the right value, to spend some time to pamper themselves, to firmly and strongly express their own opinion and express their talents. Just as if they didn’t deserve it, as if there was a severe and sadistic judge inside of them who doesn’t allow a positive self-evaluation. Our self-esteem is intimately bound to the relationship we have with the inner judge. It’s called “saboteador” in Spanish, saboteur in English (sums it up quite well, doesn’t it?). We all have our saboteur (so, don’t be afraid). We could consider this saboteur as a misunderstood and deceptive set of values, cultural and religious aspects. Having high levels of self-esteem doesn’t mean being cynical, egoistical and ruling people.
A good and healthy level of self-esteem arises and grows with the ability to individuate in yourself all the resources and potentialities to achieve your dreams and your goals. From this point of view, self-esteem rhymes with self-efficacy and self-trust (accept my poetic license).
That’s right! Self-esteem isn’t something you can buy or give as a present, that you receive when you are born. Self-esteem is a state of being that only depends on ourselves. Do you know why? Because when you have a solid opinion about yourself, there’s no outer comment, life situation or condition on your job which can be that compelling! On the contrary, when your self-esteem translates into trust in yourself and in your potentialities, problems seem to dissolve, conflicts die and the world doesn’t seem that bad after all!
How to improve self-esteem? I’ve packed up 10 tips, which could be considered as 10 simple exercises. Are you ready to train? Are you? Let’s start!