Resilience is a pretty unknown word; therefore, I’ll try to make it clearer, starting from its definition given by the Zanichelli Online Dictionary:
In metallurgy, the word resilience indicates the opposite of fragility.
In the psychological field, resilience is meant as the opposite of a fragile and vulnerable person.
Having resilience denotes the ability to face traumatic events in a positive way, to constructively rearrange life in front of difficulties. It is the ability to self-rebuild (and rebuild), remaining open to the positive opportunities that life offers, without losing humanity.
Resilient people are those who manage to effectively face adversities, give a new boost to their existences and even attain important goals in difficult circumstances, in spite of all and even against the odds sometimes.
Moreover, resilience can be thought as a psychic function that modifies over time in relation with personal experiences and, most of all, with the modification of the thinkining processes that subtend it. For this reason, different kinds of resilient abilities can be found:
From these considerations, we can deduce that appropriate resilience is the result of the integration of instinctive, affective, emotional and cognitive elements.
In this way, the resilient person can be considered the one that had an integrated development, supported by the experience and by a mental capacity that is valid enough.
Take care of yourself by trying to satisfy your needs and paying attention to your happiness. Keep yourself busy with activities you like and train your potentialities.
Define your objectives realistically and try to perform actions that let you “move towards” their attainment.
Behave optimistically, thinking that problems and crises are temporary situations.
Be determined when facing difficult situations, instead of isolating yourself in problems and negative thoughts.
Discover your strength by looking at people that grew up in suffering and struggle, finding out that you have unexpected resources.
In the research of the most appropriate strategy, try to ask yourself these simple questions:
So, “resilience” can be learned; it implies behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned by anyone in any circumstances.
Having a high level of resilience doesn’t mean not experimenting difficulties or stress in life at all. Having a high level of resilience doesn’t mean being infallible.
Who ever is prepared to change, whoever is prepared to thing about the possibility of making mistakes, but also whoever gives the possibility to correct his or her course, is a resilient person.