Coaching can make people happy. How can it make it possible?
As I’ve already repeated in this Blog, Coaching helps people discover and plan the desired future by turning wishes into concrete and attainable results.
Over the years, I’ve learned that life is essentially the set of emotions we feel. In Coaching, supporting customers in learning how to listen and how to savour the emotions born from the attainment of their goals (after experimenting it on themselves) is the basis for a well-done job.
The goals and the destinations reached inside the process act as a stimulus and a support for development and personal change.
If we managed to be aware of these positive emotions, we could get greater benefits not only from the pleasure of achieving objectives, but also from what we become as individuals.
Moreover, we’re not finding out today that happiness and all the positive spirit (emotions, above all) that accompanies the “work” to reach it are at stake in Coaching.
The starting point is always represented by the Focus, that is, the reality we are focused on, meaning by focusing “concentration“, the attention we pay to the problem to discuss, the task to carry out, the relationships to modify, the objective to achieve, enhance and develop.
The request of Coaching usually starts with a problem (meant as the obstacle that makes the achievement of an objective or the satisfaction of a certain need difficult, by standing between will and the objective reality) or a wish of development (“…I’d like to get better in my job”, “…I’d like to find a better balance”, “…I want to improve my relationship with my son”, “…I’d like to graduate”, etc.).
There’s always a will inside the problem (expressed by the verbs “I’d like…”, “I wish…”), and inside the will there’s always the hope of finding an answer in the Coach’s knowledge and competences.
The hope of being stimulated, motivated, welcomed… and this is where the Coach becomes the mean (of transport) to find a solution, where independent resources are thought to be insufficient.
Objectives, expressed with one’s own Coach, become “written statements”, “agreements with oneself” and with one’s own ally/Coach, that work as a guide toward the reaching of what is desired.
Giving oneself precise objectives (well formulated with a Coach, I’d add) is propaedeutic for every task or action plan, useful for giving shape and directions to our life… think about dispersion and confusion.
People dream about what to do, what to obtain, where to go, how to succeed in life, which lifestyle they desire to obtain. The greatest difference between a dream and an objective is that the latter is a goal, the arriving point of a strategy, of an operative project inspired by action.
Even if dreams are indispensable as they are inspiring, they are evanescent, instable and they alone can’t make people happy…the risk is “wandering without a destination” for the entire life.
I’d like to conclude with an important concept, which is the one that inspired me in this post… a sentence I often use with myself: no matter where you have been until today, no matter where you might be right now… the only thing that matters is where you want to go!
CEO and founder of Prometeo Coaching Society. He is considered a veteran of Italian Coaching. He has been a teacher and a lecturer in seminars about coaching, efficient communication, motivation and leadership for over fifteen years. He is the Education Manager of the Coaching School. Author of Migliora la tua Vita! Manuale di Self Coaching (FrancoAngeli ed.). He has trained hundreds of Coaches all around the world, led by an incredible passion for the development of human potential. Among his customers, he boasts the presence of main companies, professional athletes, show business figures and… lots of common people who wish to grow and improve.